If you have not been dating because either you had been in a long term relationship, or maybe you had been single for a long time, but in both cases, you are now ready to be part of the dating world, you might be in for a huge surprise.  You will soon find out that dating now is not the dating how you remembered years ago.  Everyone is now  using online dating apps to meet other people, chatting online and arranging for dates through apps!   Almost no one meets or asks someone out on a date at a bookshop, in the gym, at a coffee queue and if you are in your 40s and 50s, it also meant that almost all your friends and their friends, are married, possibly with kids as well.  So it means that you will be hard pressed for your friends to even introduce any friend(s) of theirs who are single, to you.

However, you are reluctant to be on these dating apps.  You have heard that these apps are only for hookups and it will be embarrassing if someone you know, a colleague or even relatives, god forbid, to see you on the dating apps.  It might also  seems that you are on these apps because you are not able to “attract” anyone in the normal way and have to resort to these dating apps.  You would prefer to meet someone, go on dates, in a more traditional, organic way, like how it used to be.  In fact, you might have tried the old tried and tested method but then, you don’t seem to have any luck with it.  Has everyone who are looking for a partner, whether casually or be in a committed relationship, all moved over to the apps??!!!  So, are you missing out??

Honestly, times have changed and it would be foolish to hold on to the old, for old times’ sake, for familiarity, and not learn to embrace the new!  Change is difficult for most people as it often brings us out of our comfort zone.  But without change, there is no growth.  If you keep doing the same things, you will get the same results.  And if what you used to do, does not work anymore, shouldn’t it makes sense to switch gear and adopt new ways of doing things?  

Dating apps are only for hookups, if you allow them to be.  In fact, the apps are a great way of filtering people even before you meet them.  Although you have to be able to apply the right filters.  You don’t want to spend time getting all dressed up, and then an hour staring at someone, only to discover you have nothing in common with them.  It is also a great way to break the ice, ask the basic questions, before you meet, like a practice run before the meetup.  Most people will be honest and tell you upfront if they are only in the apps for casual fun and nothing serious.  At least, they know what they want and make the effort to tell you, so that you won’t waste your time or theirs, if what they are looking for, is not the same as what you are looking for. 

Of course, there are also all the different dating apps out there.  Which one is the one for you?  And how do you set up your dating profile?  What pictures should you put up and what to write in your bio?

For more questions on relationship, dating-related issues, and a consultation with me, kindly get in touch with us through the form below or click on the Consultations tab above, to arrange for an appointment with Lacie. 

#lacieastrology #datingapps #relationshipcoach #journeywithlacie #somystarssay #onlinedating

HAVE YOU BEEN SINGLE FOR MORE THAN 2 YEARS?   

You might have been single. because you came out of a very long term relationship/marriage, and took the time to get over an ending of a major chapter of your life.  Now, after a couple of years, you are ready to start dating again, to find someone to share the next chapter of your life.  Putting yourself out there could be daunting but this is in fact the least of your challenges, as you will soon find out.  Not only it is scary to go back into the dating pool or more aptly, the dating apps game, you will soon realised that the dating pool has gotten a lot smaller, especially if you are going back into dating in your 40s, 50s. You will find yourself having to learn the new rules of this dating game, choosing which dating apps, signing up for the apps, learning to swipe the right people, having the skills for great virtual conversations, going on a lot of dates (much like practice), and hopefully, at the end, get to the relationship you want.  But is that all it is? 

For me personally, I thought I could easily get into a relationship when I was ready, like how difficult could it be?  Just finding the right dating apps to install, keep swiping, chatting, exchange numbers, go on dates and then you fall madly in love.  Now, nearly 9 years later, other than a few short-term relationships in between, I am still single.  I didn’t understand why and what I was doing wrong.  What was the repeated patterns or psychological barriers that were holding me back?  Sometimes, I even questioned the type of guys I was looking for, the traits that I was attracted to but really should not.

So, how do you stay ahead of this dating game?

Your astrological chart can describe your approach to relationships, the traits you are attracted to, traits that are essential for the person to possess, challenges for forming a relationship (for singles) and challenges in sustaining a relationship (those in existing relationships).

For example, for the women, if your Mars is in the sign of Gemini, you are susceptible to dating an eloquent guy, someone who is witty and intelligent.  And if your Sun is in Aries in the 4th House, this means for you a long term partner, he needs to be action-oriented motivated by family security.

For more questions on relationship, dating-related issues, and a consultation with me, kindly get in touch with us through the form below or click on the Consultations tab above, to arrange for an appointment with Lacie. 

#lacieastrology #datingapps #relationshipcoach #journeywithlacie #somystarssay #onlinedating #relationshipgoals #JourneywithLacie #psychologicalastrology #astrologicalinsights #astrologyinrelationships #relationshipprofiling

If you have been single, either recently or for a while now, you will soon realize entering into the dating world again, especially after being in a long term relationship, is daunting. There are so many things that you will soon notice,

• The dating world has changed drastically
• Everyone is picking up dates online
• There are a lot of dating apps, all with different success rates and with different “reputation”
• You might be swiping and dating the same guys that some of your other single friends are
• It is a very very small dating pool
• You will be dating a lot, and I mean a lot of people, unfortunately, mostly bad or the wrong ones. And this is the one thing that probably makes you want to give up dating entirely and remain single for the rest of your life!

So, where are all the good guys??? More specifically, where is the right guy for you? You find yourself attracted to the same guys who can’t commit, who won’t commit, who are wrong, who seems to be The One at first but then stopped communicating after a few dates, leaving you wondering what did you do wrong or what is wrong with you that you can’t seem to attract the right guy? It could also be there are some who like you but you find yourself not liking them back. You kept going for the guys who are not available emotionally, physically or even mentally. You seem stuck in this endless loop of swipe, match, chat, date(s) and repeat.

Now, the questions you may ask yourself is, are these guys really wrong or “bad” guys or in fact, is it you or your behaviour, who keep looking for these “bad” or “wrong” guys. And if it is you and your behaviours that are stopping you from finding the right guy, which one, or ones, of the behaviours, should you be looking at to change?

Psychological Astrology will show you which behaviours are the blockers to your relationships, your dating or simply your life.

For more questions on relationship, dating-related issues, and a consultation with me, kindly get in touch with us through the form below or click on the Consultations tab above, to arrange for an appointment with Lacie. 

#lacieastrology #datingapps #relationshipcoach #journeywithlacie #somystarssay #onlinedating