Everyone Is Doing Online Dating. Are You Missing Out?

If you have not been dating because either you had been in a long term relationship, or maybe you had been single for a long time, but in both cases, you are now ready to be part of the dating world, you might be in for a huge surprise.  You will soon find out that dating now is not the dating how you remembered years ago.  Everyone is now  using online dating apps to meet other people, chatting online and arranging for dates through apps!   Almost no one meets or asks someone out on a date at a bookshop, in the gym, at a coffee queue and if you are in your 40s and 50s, it also meant that almost all your friends and their friends, are married, possibly with kids as well.  So it means that you will be hard pressed for your friends to even introduce any friend(s) of theirs who are single, to you.

However, you are reluctant to be on these dating apps.  You have heard that these apps are only for hookups and it will be embarrassing if someone you know, a colleague or even relatives, god forbid, to see you on the dating apps.  It might also  seems that you are on these apps because you are not able to “attract” anyone in the normal way and have to resort to these dating apps.  You would prefer to meet someone, go on dates, in a more traditional, organic way, like how it used to be.  In fact, you might have tried the old tried and tested method but then, you don’t seem to have any luck with it.  Has everyone who are looking for a partner, whether casually or be in a committed relationship, all moved over to the apps??!!!  So, are you missing out??

Honestly, times have changed and it would be foolish to hold on to the old, for old times’ sake, for familiarity, and not learn to embrace the new!  Change is difficult for most people as it often brings us out of our comfort zone.  But without change, there is no growth.  If you keep doing the same things, you will get the same results.  And if what you used to do, does not work anymore, shouldn’t it makes sense to switch gear and adopt new ways of doing things?  

Dating apps are only for hookups, if you allow them to be.  In fact, the apps are a great way of filtering people even before you meet them.  Although you have to be able to apply the right filters.  You don’t want to spend time getting all dressed up, and then an hour staring at someone, only to discover you have nothing in common with them.  It is also a great way to break the ice, ask the basic questions, before you meet, like a practice run before the meetup.  Most people will be honest and tell you upfront if they are only in the apps for casual fun and nothing serious.  At least, they know what they want and make the effort to tell you, so that you won’t waste your time or theirs, if what they are looking for, is not the same as what you are looking for. 

Of course, there are also all the different dating apps out there.  Which one is the one for you?  And how do you set up your dating profile?  What pictures should you put up and what to write in your bio?

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